WAF

This is a fairly new term for me... am I the only one here that is virtual untouched by this strange thing?  Yes, I am married - happily... 20+ years... my wife doesn't really care when I go fishing... or when I go.  But maybe I am calculating things incorrectly.

Maybe it gets better with time Rev. I've been married for 3 and a half years and my wife is perfectly ok with me fishing one day a week. Anything more and I start to tread on thin ice.
(Unless its summer, then I have more free reign).
Paul


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My wife hates all things fishing married about a year.

Mine comes with me, bought my kayak for me, and always manages to catch a ling that's an inch longer than the one I caught.

I did buy her a revo too.

This is a fairly new term for me... am I the only one here that is virtual untouched by this strange thing?  Yes, I am married - happily... 20+ years... my wife doesn't really care when I go fishing... or when I go.  But maybe I am calculating things incorrectly.

I'm in your camp.  In 15 very happy years of marriage my wife has encouraged me to hunt and fish etc. as much as I want.  In fact she was mad at me after I showed her the Foggy Bay thread but told her I didn't want to go.   I jokingly tell my buddies that whine about WAF (new term to me too) that "life is all about choices....perhaps you've chosen poorly"

I have been happily married for 52 years now and my wife encourages me to go fishing as I am "out of her domain" for a few hours.

                                                    WAF a Cautionary Tale.

I take some of the credit for introducing WAF to NCKA about seven years ago.  It's a term I borrowed from Audiophiles that they use when they talk about their wife's reaction to them buying expensive stereo equipment.   Back when I introduced it, I thought I had it all figured out.  I was married for about three years, no kids yet and kayak fishing at least once a week, usually two or three times a week during the summer.   At the time I joked about WAF.  I thought of it as a points system... doing something around the house... earn some WAF points.   Go fishing.. spend some WAF points.    Buiild that deck or pergola your wife wanted in the back yard... major WAF points.  Spend a month in Baja.. deplete your WAF points.   My wife wasn't really in on the whole point system, but it seemed to work for me.

Then I had kids.   Suddenly it seemed that the WAF price of everything doubled with each kid and while my earnings decreased.   Change a diaper... no WAF pionts.. that was expected of the new modern Dad.  Spend an afternoon fishing, well you left your wife home alone with the kid and you used all the WAF points for the month.  Granted I'm the only one that took accounting of these points, but I could usually judge my WAF balance by the expression on my wife's face when I mentioned fishing.   

In the end, I tried so hard to earn more WAF points that I simply set the bar too high on my wife's expectations.   The market on WAF bottomed out and I'm left nearly broke, fishing about once every month or so at best.    The WAF market is too volatile and it's best not to become to invested in it. 

Brian

From my observations, it appears that once you've reached a point of tenure in your marriage and kids are no longer a major consideration, wives start to understand the need for their husband's "mental health" activities.  Hang in there Brian, you only have a couple of decades before you're back to fishing on a regular basis.   

-Spot-

Luckily my son likes fishing, so as long as I take him with me it's a WAFZSG (wife approval factor zero-sum game).  Once I start taking both my daughter and son fishing at the same time my wife will likely start begging me to go fishing more.

Brian, what are their ages?  Have you tried taking the kids with you?

oops, you beat me to it

I just remember that the proper term is SWMBO and all is (usually) good.  Once we get the house/yard to a maintenance level rather than project level my fishing time should increase.  Also will help when I can afford a tandem yak and a kid size drysuit.

I got on one knee in the parking lot of Fisherman's landing after an eleven day trip at sea out of SanDiego fishing with a group called BAD HABIT.  We were surrounded by thousands of pounds of frozen YFT, Dorado, YT, BFT, and Wahoo.  She said yes and that was 11 years ago and all is still good.  Just include the kids and it's all good.

Lee your avatar grosses me out. I can't believe you two do that. Mouths are so dirty.

This thread is now 1 jadester post away from the chum bucket

"Fishing delayed is fishing denied." That's what I tell my wife. I tread a fine line on the amount of fishing but usually there isn't a problem because I kind of have it figured out.